Monday, April 25, 2011

love is overrated?

yesterday i saw one of tv shows aired the topic of "LOVE"
the tagline was: "Love is crazy."

thus i wonder whether i would post a blog about it or not
since it is a kind of delicate topic to talk about over here
but then i thought "well it is too much, maybe i just have to separate it from what i usually talk about here"

but then i was intrigued by someone saying "LOVE IS OVERRATED"
not only intrigued, i was challenged......
not to prove how not overrated love is, but to prove, love is merely something that people try to define
to make it real.

that is at least what i believe

hereby i try to define what is love in the first place ACCORDING to what people define it (of course it is from dictionary! ha!)

American heritage dictionary: love
(n)
  1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
  2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
    1. Sexual passion.
    2. Sexual intercourse.
    3. A love affair.
  3. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
  4. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
  5. An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
    1. A strong predilection or enthusiasm: a love of language.
    2. The object of such an enthusiasm: The outdoors is her greatest love.
  6. Love Mythology. Eros or Cupid.
  7. often Love Christianity. Charity.
  8. Sports. A zero score in tennis. 
from all the definitions above, i shall say: all of them are truly human beings' perspective of what is love, not what love actually is
so what is love?
i can simply say i don't know.

if i have really to answer is, my answer would be definitely similar to one of above definitions.
then it would become useless for me to define it, since love is so abstract, nothing can describe it
you know it is simply like abstract art
guess what, the artist may say EVERYTHING or ANYTHING about their art
but really? they have any idea what it is about?
i know why i am doing my abstract painting
i know what it is about
i know the reason behind it
i know the tools
i know everything about it but the abstraction itself
it is absurd
almost undefinable.
but then..... it is the beauty of it
because you cannot really define it, it becomes something that triggers your emotion
that why abstract art is intriguing and affecting you so much when you face it
you ask 10000 people who experience the same one abstract piece, you will get 10000 different interpretations
forget the definition, forget the title, forget the artist
forget everything you know about the art itself and start interpreting it according to what you experience in life
BINGO
you get similar affect like when you have to define art

you pause for a moment, think carefully about it, and start remembering everything you know/do/get from your life experience to compare or to put it together and explain what the art piece is about (love is about).

but who can really define the abstract piece itself but the artist?
but then where does the talent come from?
where does the idea of abstraction come from?
only He knows.

thus, even people create the term LOVE, they don't really know what it is
we can only define something, describe something just to make it REAL and make it OURS

this bothers me so much when people start to blame love or use love term as something that affect your life so bad
if you don't care or don't bother at all about love
you still care about it by bothering say I DON'T CARE
when by the time you are saying it, you instantly think what you are saying = you think about love itself

you know people crying for love, dying for love, surviving for love, being happy for love
but is it really FOR LOVE? or is it merely for YOURSELF
convincing yourself so much that IT IS LOVE
is actually just to make those feelings become real
that you can describe what you are feeling

you don't can't hate love
you only hate yourself and the situation that shapes/makes you do that
you only hate the person that cause it
you hate the fact
not the love itself
love becomes the black sheep most of the time

there must be something that cause people say "i hate love", "i hate being in love", "love is overrated", "love is underrated", or even "love is bullshit"
love is only how we see it, interpret it, define it, experience it.

if i have to say, i guess love really is crazy
crazy because you can't explain what you feel/do/experience
see crazy people out there, you can't tell what they do/say/think
that's why you say they're crazy
simply because you can't define it
can't understand or grasp the situation.

if i can say, love is simply SIMPLE.

so have a good day people!
though love cannot be defined
at least try to feel it in every little thing in your life~

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