Monday, March 12, 2012

HUMAN BE(ing).

human being is a complex living creature that when we think of it, our own characteristics can be defined in MILLION ways. You name it: biology, psychology, anthropology, history, linguistic, culture, etc.

“Human beings are funny. They long to be with the person they love but refuse to admit openly. Some are afraid to show even the slightest sign of affection because of fear. Fear that their feelings may not be recognized, or even worst, returned. But one thing about human beings puzzles me the most is their conscious effort to be connected with the object of their affection even if it kills them slowly within.” --Sigmund Freud
even Kahlil Gibran mentioned:

"The eye of a human being is a microscope, which makes the world seem bigger than it really is."  
--Khalil Gibran
 have you ever wondered how AMAZING we are, as a being, keep searching about what we really are?

There's a reason why people are busy defining others.
The same reason why people judge others.
The same reason why there is such thing called, GETTING-TO-KNOW-EACH-OTHER

(yes, you know where this is going)

The same reason why people are so nosy
The same reason why people need others

That leads to the reason why people love each other.

Think about it.

Why do we bother to find similarities, or differences, between two different gender individuals?
If it is not to define who we really are, ourselves.
We need other people to define who we are.
We need others to make ourselves see what we are.
What kind of person, am I.

According to Biology, Human beings are animals.

According to Psychology: Unlike physical objects and animals, human beings are self-conscious and can,
therefore, subject themselves to their own study. 

human being
a member of any of the races of Homo sapiens; person; man, woman, or child
And plenty more.
I am going to focus on culture and social interpretation.
Simply, life surroundings.

I recall one of my friend's friend told her that we (me and my friend) are the kind of girls who are beyond average level.
He defines that we are the type of people who don't bother about how much money we spend, how we perceive anything in life as easy breezy, that we don't understand the idea of "struggling" or "surviving" because everything is served right in front of our eyes.
In addition to that, he just met me and barely talked (aside from introducing myself and himself), and I just sit in front of him, talked to my friend for less than an hour.

See my point?
I am judged by other people in less than one hour, simply by observing the content of conversation I had with my friend, in which at that time, not knowing the probability whether I was bluffing or talking the real thing.

Simply from that, I know, that every second counts.
We, human beings, prone to judge others by a second of looking/hearing/smelling.
Human perceiving power is kinda scary, to say.

Another example:
I once asked my bestfriend, "what kind of person am I?"
We have been friends for like YEARS.
Her answer was simply based on how I treat her, the way I talk, the way I tell story, and how she sees me as a person, subjectively.
Without deriving the facts objectively.
Her answer was not wrong, at all.
But was not correct, in a way that she only says things she have been observing throughout the years, based on how I act when I am with her or things I do in my life.

See, how subjective human beings are?
In our everyday life we behave in different ways and use the term 'behaviour' to refer to the verbal and physiological responses and actions
Most of human beings see, perceive, think of other people as what they interpret.

While studying human behaviour we need to remember the following:
(i) Changes are observed in individuals due to maturation, learning and ageing.
(ii) Human behaviour at any moment is a joint function of the personal
characteristics and the properties of environment.
(iii) The measurement of psychological attributes (e.g., personality, intelligence,
interest, attitude) is usually indirect and based on inferences.
(iv) Many aspects of social behaviour are rule-governed and culture specific.
(v) Human behaviour is usually determined by multiple causes

However, as it is mentioned above, there are several points that need to be taken when it comes to observing a human being.
But mostly what people do is merely based on
1. what we are wearing
2. what we are talking
3. what we are driving
4. what we are doing for living (job, salary, title)
5. what we do on social media

Honestly speaking, do we really ever ask someone "What do you know about yourself?"
when we are casually talking, or when we get to know each other?
It is barely happening.
But I guess mostly people will answer "You tell me"
Because it is HARD to define who we really are.
It is DIFFICULT to describe what kind of person we are.
Without prior self-observation.
Without asking others "What kind of person do you think I am?"
Because once again, we are subjectively, unconscious or consciously thinking, perceiving one self as what we interpret.
Thus, it is hard to define ourselves without trying to avoid the tendencies that we say simplest thing about ourselves.

(See my point? That an individual is even hardly know him/herself)

Usually when people ask someone that question, "What do you know about yourself?"
Or I shall rephrase it, when I ask someone that question, most answers I get:
1. They ask it back
2. "I am who I am"
3. "I am me" (right, reminds me of ris low)
4. I am kind, blablablabla (standard adjectives)
5. I don't know

And mostly I find that it takes several minutes of pause after the question is given.

Maybe it's time to think about it from now on.
Who do you think you are according to yourself?
I mean, who else knows yourself better but you?
And once you know and understand who/what you are, take a leap of faith.
Stand on your feet (:

I challenge myself:
I am going to sit frequently somewhere in public area, and I am going to observe particular people that seem interesting to me, I am going to make sketch(es) and do my own interpretation about those people. ;)