Showing posts with label manner. Show all posts
Showing posts with label manner. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Tips(y).

Salah satu alasan kenapa saya malas mengunjungi salon disini adalah urusan tip.
tipping.

Bukan karena saya pelit.
Bukan karena saya males.
Bukan karena saya enggan.
Bukan juga karena saya gak punya uang.

Saya malas karena saya tidak mengerti apa alasan memberi tips di Indonesia.

Pertama, yang namanya tip itu diberikan secara sukarela oleh customer atas penghargaan akan rasa puas terhadap service yang sudah diberikan. Tapi disini tip itu menjadi sebuah KEHARUSAN yang kalau tidak dilakukan akan membuat kita merasa gimana-gimana.

Kedua, tidak ada aturan baku mengenai seberapa banyak kita harus memberikan tip disini. Misalnya saja, jika aturan tip adalah 15% dari biaya service, seandainya saya potong rambut di salon dan membayar Rp 400.000,- untuk potongan rambut tersebut, apakah saya harus memberikan tip dengan jumlah Rp 60.000,-? WOW! Lalu di saat yang sama biasanya saya harus membayar tip untuk pencuci rambut dan pengeblow rambut juga. Untuk ke salon saja saya harus merogoh kocek minimal Rp 100.000,- hanya untuk tip? Buat saya, jujur itu buang-buang uang saja. Bukan pelit, tapi itu realita yang tidak realistis.

Okay, saya ingin mendapatkan service yang baik dan kalau bisa hubungan antara hairdresser dan pelanggan yang baik tanpa harus merogoh kocek untuk tip sebesar itu disini, tapi rasanya kok susah?

Di SG saya biasa potong rambut dengan harga $50 sudah termasuk cuci rambut, blow variasi, dan juga tidak perlu memberi tip karena saya sudah kenal baik dengan hairdressernya (awal kali kesana juga tidak perlu memberi tip). Karena kadang pemberian tip di SG sana bisa jadi sebuah insult karena memang jarang ada pemberian tip di salon.
Saya bukan seseorang yang pelit tip jika memang servis memuaskan, tapi dimana dulu konteksnya. Jika saya pergi ke sebuah restoran dan pelayannya sangat memuaskan, saya tidak segan memberikan sisa kembalian atau tip yang sesuai untuk si pelayan. Karena memang kadang total bill yang ada belum termasuk service tax, atau juga kadang memang servisnya benar-benar memuaskan dan bikin saya betah lama-lama disana.
FYI, excellent service is so rarely found here!

Berikut contekan tips untuk tipping (taken from here):

Food ServiceBarista
No tip required, though many suggest throwing coins into the tip jar.
Bartender
$1/drink (or 15% of total bill). Pre-tip for better service.
Delivery person (including pizza)
10%, $2 minimum 
Maitre d’
$5-$25 for special efforts
Takeout
No tip required unless something special is done
Waiter
15% for adequate service, 20% for exceptional service. For poor service, leave 10% or less. It’s okay to leave nothing for exceptionally poor service, but only if you’re sure it’s the waiter’s fault.
Hotel Staff
Bellman/Porter
$1 to $2 per bag, $5 minimum. (Or, just as many places say $1 bag, $2 minimum.)
Concierge
$5-$20 depending on the service. $20 if he does something exceptional. Nothing for directions.
Housekeeper
$2 to $5 per night, paid daily or as a lump sum at checkout. (Most sites suggest you tip daily.)
Parking Valet
A wide range of opinions. Everyone agrees that you should pay when your car is retrieved. Some say to pay when it’s parked, too. Most sites say to tip $2, though some suggest $5.
Room service
$5 minimum (unless gratuity is included in check)
Travel
Bus driver (not mass transit)
$1 to $2, if she handles luggage
Cab driver
10%, $2-$5 minimum
Chauffeur
10-15%
Gas station attendant
Nothing. Or $2-$4. There’s no agreement. (I’ve never seen anyone tip a gas station attendant ever.)
Porter/skycap
$1 per bag. $2 for heavy items, or if porter brings luggage to counter.
Personal service
Barber/Hairstylist
Again, little agreement: 10-15%, 15-20%, etc. One person recommends $5 to each individual who shampoos or blow-dries your hair!
Manicurist
15%
Spa service
15-20%
Masseuse
10-15%
Shoe-shiner
$2 or $3
Other
Building superintendent
Varies —read more.
Coat checker
Most sites recommend $1 per coat, though one said $2 to $5 upon retrieval.
Furniture deliverer
It depends. Most of the time $5-$20. Some recommend simply offering cold drinks. 
Grocery store bagger
One site recommended $1-$3, though I’ve never seen one tipped in my life.
Mover
$10-$25 per person 
What about tipping at holidays? Tipping service people with whom you have regular contact can build goodwill. I found these recommendations:
Holiday Tips
  • Babysitter: one week’s pay
  • Doorman: bottle of wine or box of chocolates
  • Garbage collector: $15 to $25
  • Gardener: one week’s pay
  • Housekeeper: one week’s pay
  • Janitor: $15 to $25
  • Mail carrier: $15 to $20 (up to $20 non-cash)
  • Nanny: one week’s pay
  • Newspaper delivery person: $15 to $25
  • Parking attendant: $15 to $25
  • Personal trainer: $20 to $50 (tip discreetly)
Some points regarding tipping etiquette:
  • If you use a coupon or gift certificate, calculate your tip based on the total before discount.
  • Tip above the norm if:
    • Service is exceptional,
    • You’ve been a burden, or
    • You are a regular client.
  • Don’t tip if it’s not deserved. Poor service should not be rewarded.
  • In some circumstances, if you offer an initial tip — especially a large initial tip — you’ll get better service.
  • If you take up a restaurant table for a long time, tip extra.
  • Tip discreetly.
  • When in doubt, tip.
Dan kalau kata Kompas, lain lagi ceritanya.
Jadi yang mana yang benar?
Benarkah karena pengaruh budaya luar kita jadi kebiasaan memberikan tip?
Atau perlukah tip itu untuk menghargai servis baik yang telah kita terima?

Kalau saya sih jujur pinginnya ada aturan baku dan tertulis bahwa tipping itu hanya dilakukan secara sukarela, bukan "kebiasaan" atau "keharusan".
Tidak ada acara bete kalau tidak diberikan tip lalu di kunjungan berikutnya servis seenaknya.

Saya benar-benar malas jika harus ke salon, mengendap-endap atau sembunyi tangan memberikan uang ke tukang cuci rambut, si pemotong rambut, dan tukang blow. *phew*

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

dimana moral manusia jaman sekarang?

kemaren ini baru aja pulang ke indonesia lagi...

all i can say is WOW......

WOW untuk banyaknya kasus2 video mesum artis yang notabene ternyata karena semata artis itu kehilangan hard disk/laptop (?) nya...

WOW untuk kasus temen gue yang bb nya ilang (juga)...

WOW untuk temen gue juga yang ampir kecopetan

WOW untuk pembicaraan sama bokap yang membahas jaman sekarang manusia hampir ga punya moral dan etika karena barang milik orang lain udah bukan lagi milik orang tersebut melainkan milik KHALAYAK RAMAI a.K.a tukang copet.

but i come to a conclusion whereby i feel that nowadays money seems to be the BIGGEST issue in our society
the lack of morality and etiquette, and obviously education has led several cases (crime cases) to a conclusion that money becomes the main problem in our surroundings..

but what makes it so ironic is that, instead of making themselves a better individuals, people who steal and do crimes, are just making themselves into rubbish and worst by doing so

bukan bersikap naif untuk bilang kalau uang itu bukan apa2 di jaman ini..
semua2 butuh uang...
dari yang namanya lahir, sekolah, lulus2an, kawinan, sampe mati aja butuh duit...
kencing aje butuh duit......

last modified 6/10/10

Monday, June 21, 2010

ariel - luna maya - cut tari

yea so i was signing in my msn this morning and while the msn today popped up i saw the latest news about these 3 celebs in indonesia

i was so WOW that it seems that the case becomes more complicated and publicized a lot more than when i was in indonesia a week back

some news say that a paparazzi was being hit by ariel's car, luna maya keeps quiet and refuses to have a conversation with public, farhat abbas as the chief of human rights insists the law to make these 3 celebs as main suspects but the other news says that he, as the CHIEF will give help to pardon these celebs to the public IF they claim that the videos are theirs
wtf?


I MEAN WTF??!!@$#$#$

seriously people..
what makes all of you whom judging them so pure and sinless that you have right to judge them like you do?
they are also humans and they have feelings just like you and me
have you ever pondered what would it feel like if you were them?
people are just wanting to have fun and be happy on top of others' problem, difficulties, and sadness

are you some kind of cold-hearted society or what?
seriously!

im not writing this to defend anyone..
im here to say what i think and what i feel about

i just dont think it's right when people judge these celebs just because they do something that IS NOT PLEASANT FOR YOU
or DISSAPOINT YOU

banyak ibu2 di indonesia klo lagi ada road show sinetron tertentu beneran cubitin dan pukulin pemeran antagonis nya..
gue rasa orang indonesia udah terlalu ga bisa memilah mana reality mana fiktif....
a lot of housewives in indonesia whom come to certain soap opera road show, they often pinch or hit the antagonist character in the movie as if they were really really bad in the reality as well
i think indonesians are too ignorant to see which is reality and which is fictional...
 
its so wth!

i just think sometimes public society and paparazzi are too ignorant to THINK
yes TO THINK
that celebrities are also human and they have flaws and sins and feelings just like we, you, i are

yes it is true that paparazzi needs them to make stories, money etc and so do the celebs
it's a mutual
YET sometimes paparazzi cross the border to far away that the celebs become nuts and mad about it and they begin to cross the line as well

for example

ariel's car hit the paparazzi until she cannot walk and she needs to be hospitalized
and then whom to blame?

if this particular paparazzi didnt cross the line and she could just be sympathize with ariel's condition and just spare his weary heart, this situation wouldnt be happened at all

RESPECT!

if i were ariel i would do the same thing as well..
seriously even if im not a public figure..
if someone keeps following me to just emphasize or drag me into the same mistake i did and to just publicize it, i'd just go mad and hit everyone in front of me..

it's human nature
it's just a way to escape, to defend ourselves
to protect one self

i feel sorry for these 3 celebs
and i hope people can slowly pardon them for what they did
because i know that it's not all 100% their own mistakes

this thing wouldn't happen at all if there's respect and LOVE among human race

i hope luna maya is and will be able to cope this situation and be strong and be tough!
cheer up girl! (:

(hey i used to not paying attention to her tho :D)

and for ariel, please go to the best and nearest psychiatric and get a remedy for your problem
stop making videos okay?

and please people...
stop judging them....
use your brain and heart to feel and get a better understanding with what they feel
they are human
they have flaws
they make mistake

if anyone of you out there pure and sinless enough, go ahead make a step, you can just shout that they are suspects and they are wrong and need to be punished severely

because i don't think it's fair for them to feel and get this kind of public punishment

but once again im not here to defend any party.
i just feel sorry for these 3 celebs and hope they are tough and strong enough to face this

IF I CAN DO IT, WHY CAN'T YOU?

Sunday, June 20, 2010

how thankful i am.

blessed.

perhaps that's the only word that can describe what i really feel right now.

but wait.
no... not completely.....

human's feeling is so funny that i feel blessed and screwed up at the same time

so should i smile or................. be crabby about this issues?

well first of all good thing always comes first eh? haha..

so i feel blessed because this afternoon when i was kind of officially "sign off" from the choir
the group gave me this goodbye gift which was so unexpectable

HEY I AM LOVEDDDD!!!

hahaha...

so yea, i nearly cried when i was reading the written text on this crystal ball thingy, which is

HEAVEN MUST HAVE SENT YOU

okay it's not merely SWEET but it's also the best non-solid (can i say it non-solid? haha) precious gift and moment has ever given to me

i mean....
sometimes words are really the strongest sword, in this context, to penetrate someone's heart....in a good way
hahaha i shall say it's touchy and sentimental~
and i loved it!!!!!!!
i heart sweet words and sayings hahahaha
no, not the cheesy ones ever! :p

so yea...
i am really surrounded by wonderful and nice people!
i love you guys so much
God bless~


















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the other thing that happened today was
this particular person who was about to be the next tenant whom will replace me after i leave sg, called off
and yea, he postponed the payment of the deposit for 2 days
WITHOUT any confirmation

well people, seriously
if you want/not want something, tell the other party about your decision
DON'T WAIT for them to look for you and chase you around
cmon it's an adult life
youre no longer a kindergarten child who needs a guardian or at least someone to tell you what to do
GIMME SOME RESPECT MAN!

and i bet one day in your life if you keep this nasty habit of yours, im sure one day you'll meet someone who is as nasty as you and he/she wont give a damn about any excuses and will crush you into several small pieces which im sure a bird wont be able to pick any of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

man im so pissed and upset bout this kind of person
so irresponsible

so sorry i dont give damn about your excuse
but at least let me know if youre cancelling
so i could find other people who really are interested in my place so i dont waste my time dealing with person like you

man............................... HORRIBLE!

seriously people..
learn some manners and etiquette!

coz if i can do it, why can't you??

Sunday, June 13, 2010

indonesia tanah air beta~

.....and everything comes to an end

and i have been staying and studying in singapore for 4 years and i guess now is the time i go back to my home town, my beloved country

there are so many contradictions, pro and con about me having this decision to go back to indonesia
some say that job offers are much better here in singapore, some say that indonesia is a definitely best place to explore art

me?

i shall say YES to those who say that money and job is much more better here in singapore compared to indonesia... but whom am i trying to satisfy? myself? or other people?

people will always demand something for us and as if our lives are part of theirs..
well i dont say it's a bad thing but i know somewhere, somehow, i am able to reach my own beautiful goal and success..
and to reach that, i do not need peole who bring me down
i can stand on my own feet i shall say

i dont want to become a selfish and arrogant by saying that i don't want to work in a company/office like others do.
i dont see it as bad thing but i dont see it as good thing for me as well
well i have plenty options to choose, arent i right?

it's obvious that i need a monetary support to practice my art but i know somehow i can find a way, other way to succeed

sometimes am tired to answer question "when are you going to work?" or "what is your next plan?" just to hear the same thing from different people all over again

i do understand that getting job is the top priority in this life but just like uya kuya mentioned in today's show "hidup adalah pilihan jadi jangan menghakimi satu sama lain"
i trully believe that each of us has different path in earning success
it's a matter on how we want to pursue it in our life

ngomong-ngomong uya kuya
hari ini yang di hipnotis bencong dan ex-bencong
and i was quite fascinated by the fact that sometimes, those kinds of people are better than us, the so-called "normal"or shall i say ordinary people?

kalo bisa komen sih orang-orang begitu menurut gue jauh lebih beradab daripada yang ngaku2 manusia normal
emang di dunia cuma ada laki-laki atau perempuan
tapi coba dipikir lagi....
kadang kita suka menjudge apa yang orang lain lakuin/gak bisa lakuin karena kita sendiri belum pernah merasakan apa yang mereka rasakan

bisa jadi.....
orang-orang yang ngomong sama koar-koar kalo banci itu cuma manusia laknat dan sebagainya, menurut gue udah menjudge banci sebagai makhluk yang seharusnya ga Tuhan ciptain
tapi toh buktinya mereka nongol di muka bumi ini dan banyak dimana-mana
walau case nya beragam, dari yang dari berojol ke dunia uda memang begitu atau karena banyak alasan jadi mau berubah menjadi banci aja...
tapi regardless apapun alasannya, ga ada alesan buat ngejudge mereka atau memilah-milah mereka itu ciptaan yang layak/gak...

simplenya, mereka sama2 berbentuk manusia, ada kepala, badan, tangan kaki dll yang menurut gue adalah jelas termasuk cerminan Tuhan juga.. seperti apa yang ditulis di Alkitab bahwa Tuhan menciptakan manusia menurut rupa dirinya

sekarang begini aja..
andai dari dulu manusia dikategoriin jadi 3 macem, pria wanita dan banci, jelas ga akan mungkin kejadian banci dijadiin momok cemoohan orang kan?

sebenernya ga masalah mo dia ga normal atau ga layak hidup atau ga masuk ciptaan Tuhan, asal sesama manusia bisa hargain satu sama lain, ga akan ada yang namanya hal-hal buruk terjadi
sayangnya makin kesini, makin bertambah waktu, gue merasa moral dan etika orang bukannya makin baik malah makin ancur, makin parah.....

jarang gue liat ada orang nabrak atau lakuin kesalahan trus otomatis minta maaf...
biasa malah sibuk pelotot2an.....
kasarnya bisa dibilang emang "KALAU MAAF CUKUP, GA ADA KANTOR POLISI"

mungkin klo gue ini jadi pencipta segalanya yah, gue sulap aja semua jadi masa purba deh...
minus dinosaurus...
abisan manusia jaman sekarang kok yah jahat nya ga ketolongan....
mending klo jahat ga nimbrungin sesamanya..
ini udah jahat, melibatkan orang lain yang ga salah apa2 trus biasanya orang jahat itu jelek loh.....
hahahahahahaha....
(mengutip kata bokap gue aja deh..... yang kemaren ini lagi ngobrol nyeletuk "biasanya orang jelek itu banyak kejelekannya loh")

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earlier on this day, i went to church as usual for choir service and i did talk to the sopranos leader that i will be going back to indonesia for good by the end of this june
and i felt a slight tears in the corner of my both eyes
these 4 years have been great
people come and go in the choir but some are permanent residents of the choir loft which make me feel sad about leaving them

the choir in singapore is very different from indonesia which makes me feel horrible leaving them

but i gotta do what i have to do

maybe i'll find a good choir group that suits my style in indonesia and i am so sure i will! (:

2 more weeks is kinda fast i think
but yeah here i am so ready to leave this lion city and begin a new page of life in indonesia!
wish me luck people! (:

Sunday, March 14, 2010

being humble won't damage us... not when we learn to try.

hari ini gue mau ketemu sama temen nyokap..
janjiannya di orchard and crap........ i overslept...
jadi pas di telp gue belon sempet ngapa2in...
trus gue mandi dll...
buru2 ke bus stop..
eh bus sial ga dateng2 bikin gue emosi...
jadi gue naek taxi (emosian sih >.<")

sopirnya jutek banget..
gue sebut mau ke takashimaya dia diem aja...
at least greet kek..
jadi yauda gue setel ipod aja..

meanwhile pas lagi di jalan..
tiba2 dia ngomong "are you Indonesian or Singaporean?"
gue jawab aja "indonesian" (yaiyalaahh lah yaa)

gini deh dialognya:

sopir taxi aneh (STA): so are you working here?
gue (G): no im studying
STA: what are you studying?
G: im studying art
STA: where where? (typical singaporean... =,=')
G: lasalle
STA: oh lasalle that one near prinsep
G: yup

si STA diem...... trus dia ambil foto2.. (gatau poto paan..) trus dia nyetir sambil liatin foto
(kok feeling gue rada gaenakkk....)

STA: so where do you stay?
G: (diem dulu mikir jangan2 ni orang mau macem2.. tapi keburu ditepis.. gabole mikir jahat dulu... >.<) jalan dusun
STA: oh.. jalan dusun.. my brother's staying there also
G: owh..
STA: how long have you been here?
G: roughly bout 4 years (gue mule merasa kek diinterogasi... atau diinterview? XD)
STA: my son stays in USA
G: *cengo* (mikir kenapa tiba2 ni org ngmg gitu..) oh.. okay...
STA: you know america?
G: uh huh... (uncle,, PLEASE!!!! ga perlu gitu kaleee.... <<< mule merasa annoyed)
STA: yes my son lives there and he study there (ingat, most of singaporean boleh ngmg grammar macam apapun! :p)
G: oh okay..
STA: now he's working you know.. he's working at ..... (i cant remember the name), you know? (gausa pake YOU KNOW YOU KNOW MULU DEH UNCLE.. nadanya ga enakin bgt)
G: no i havent heard of
STA: its very popular. its.... (gue juga lupa dia ngmg apa yg jelas bangga2in), what do you think??!
G: err.. okay?

STA diem... untuk ngomong lagi..

STA: so where are you working in here? (astaga!!! uda dibilang gue studying!)
G: (mule annoyed) im not working, i SAID im studying here
STA: what do you studying? (errr... here we go again.......from the start)
G: art, fine arts.. (i feel kinda like james bond hahaha)
STA: oh art.. so what you do?
G: im a painter?
STA: oh painter. what you do? painting all the time?
G: (dengan sabar jelasin...) hmm actually you can do anything in fine arts right now though you're majoring in painting or whatsoever
STA: what?! what is fine arts? whats that?
G: fine arts is the major faculty that has painting, sculpture, and printmaking under it
STA: what?! whats print what? printmaking?
G: yea, printmaking is dealing with printing.. for example a pic on the t-shirt
STA: oh its like a logo?
G: hmm something like that (iyain aja de cape..)
STA: my son has been in america for 11 years you know! 11 years.. i sometimes go there to visit. this year i go visit again i think. in may... may is the best time he said. because december is no good. its very cold there
G: oh okay... (ya iyalahhh desember pan winterrr ommm)
STA: my son graduated..... (nunjukkin poto2 tadi.. oh rupanya poto anaknya)
G: owh..
STA: he has girlfriend you know. a japanese girlfriend. she's the dean. you know the dean? this is the dean (nunjukin poto)
G: yea i know
STA: see ah.. dean you see..
G: (diem aja)
STA: have you been to america?
G: nope
STA: ive been you know. ive been to las vegas, grand canyon, ..... (disebutin smua lah..) its very beautiful you know
G: oh.. i see..

trus abis itu gue ga inget dia ngmg apa lagi.. gue iya2in aja..
uda tll annoyed gara2 diajak ngmg tp ngerasa dibego2in bgt..
so what klo gue belon pernah ke amerika?
dan so what klo anak lo sekolah di amerika?
it doesnt mean anything to me...
i dont know you and vice versa...
but please dont be so annoying and kinda rude..

oke lah gue ngerti mungkin emang bawaan orangnya gitu...
atau mungkin si uncle kesepian butu temen ngomong ato apapun...
tapi cara ngomong macem "ngeguruin" org tuh malesin banget deh....

please...
dont talk down to other people like you know everything. and even so, being a humble person wont damage you anything rite?

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

kebiasaan buruk pasangan

baru sign in msn, kebuka deh itu TODAY menu..
ehh ga sengaja iseng2 buka page ini...
jadi mau ketawa hihihihihi......
sebenernya sih menurut gue emg alamiahnya n naturalnya cowok2 untuk bersikap begini..
tapi ada beberapa pro n kontra dalam artikel ini...
yg kadang seperti men-stereotype-kan laki2.. hehehe...
(tapi bukan berarti gue membela kaum laki2 juga karena mereka emg kadang sukaa sihh bikin bete :P)

taken from: http://news.id.msn.com/lifestyle/okezone/article.aspx?cp-documentid=3673893

Main mata dengan wanita lain
Para kaum hawa tentunya tidak bodoh. Mereka tahu persis saat Anda mencuri pandang atau main mata dengan wanita lain. Dengan pelayan restoran, atau pun gadis di sebelah meja kalian misalnya. Kebiasan ini tentu saja membuatnya jengkel dan tak bisa berhenti mengomel saat Anda main mata dengan wanita tersebut.
Tentu saja kebiasaan buruk ini membuat para kaum hawa berpendapat, pasangannya yang hobi main mata dengan wanita lain, memiliki bakat playboy. Jika kekesalannya sudah menumpuk jangan heran bila si dia akan segera meninggalkan Anda secepat mungkin.
untuk yang satu ini, gue cuma bisa ngomong, kalau emg uda dasarnya co itu matanya punya sensor yg sangat kuat, tajam, dan peka..
sama aja kek misalnya co itu selalu reflek bisa liat paha ce yang tiba2 roknya disingkap angin, padahal anginnya belon dateng, matanya uda bisa nengok duluan cari itu object surgawi sesaat.
atau misalnya emang ada cewek bening lewat, ya jamak aja mata co ngelirik. kita perempuan juga suka ngeliat yang seger2 kok waktu sama pasangan kita..
sesuatu yang ga bisa dipungkiri.
kuncinya ya ngertiin aja uda dasarnya manusia ga bisa puas sama apa yang dimiliki jadi selalu bisa reflek liat yang bening2.
lagian liat aja ga dosa, asal jangan keterlaluan....
tau diri aja deh... ☺

Selalu terlambat setiap kencan
Hal kecil yang bisa menguji kesabaran para wnaita adalah mendapati pasangannya tidak tepat waktu. Satu atau dua kali kebiasaan buruk ini Anda lakoni, mungkin si dia akan memaafkannya, tetapi lebih dari itu peringatan pun akan segera menghampiri Anda.
Namun semakin sering Anda mengulangi kesalahan dengan datang terlambat ditiap kencan, tak menutup kemungkinan si dia akan meninggalkan Anda di lokasi kencan. Oleh karena itu, jika tak ingin membuat pasangan menjadi marah siapkan seribu alasan agar kebiasaan Anda dimaafkan dan kisah asmara pun terselamatkan.

ambil positifnya aja deh..
ngaku aja kalau ce dandan itu lama banget klo mo ngedate (contohnya saya: pernah bikin pacar saya bete karena 1 jam nungguin saya dandan HAHAHAH!)
tapi worth it kan karena cantik? AHHAHA! *pede*

okay, cowok2, setidaknya kalian cobalah lebih on time....
emang bete nungguin cewek dandan..
tapi itu bukan alasan untuk datang terlambat..
at least dateng ngepas sama waktu yang dijanjikan..
jangan sampai bikin perempuan nungguin kalian di rumah..
emang si di rumah sndiri..
tapi apa kalian tau perempuan itu selalu excited nungguin co dateng jemput untuk date???
jadi cepet2 lah dateng...
klo emg ada halangan, kasih tau in advance, jadi betenya yaaa ga bete2 amat. hehehe...

Bergosip
Meski tak semua pria hobi bergosip, namun tak disangkal sebagian pria juga suka bergosip dengan para sahabatnya. Kini bergosip tak hanya menjadi kegiatan para kaum hawa disaat senggang, melainkan ada banyak pria yang mulai menikmati kegiatan yang satu ini. Kebiasaan ini pula yang kerap membuat para wanita kesal. Pasalnya pasangan lebih senang menghabiskan waktunya dengan teman-temannya untuk bergosip dibandingkan menghabiskan waktu untuk bersama dirinya.

errr... ini sih gue ga bisa komen banyak yah..
mungkin problemnya bukan gosip2an...
intinya cowok2, coba deh lebih peka dikit..
kalian kan emang kaum sosialis dimana ada prinsip kalau laki2 itu sama temen2nya ga akan bisa dipisahin...
jadi cewek2 coba aja juga ngertiin dikit..
cuma jadi co juga jangan keterlaluan, coba balance dong waktu ngumpul ma temen sm ce....
trus kalo LDR coba kek pikirin ce nya dulu baru temen2nya..
toh sama temen2nya kan ketemu tiap hari, sama ce nya? hayo??

Pelupa
Kebiasaan lain yang juga dibenci para wanita adalah saat pasangannya menjadi sosok pria pelupa. Konon kebiasan ini akan mendatangkan banyak masalah bila para pria sudah janji dan lupa untuk menepati janjinya pada pasangan. Tak heran banyak pasangan yang kerap menuding pria tersebut adalah pria pembohong, padahal mereka nyatanya lupa dengan janji yang mereka ungkapkan.
Untuk itu, cobalah Anda mengingat kembali ucapan dan janji apa saja yang pernah Anda ucapkan pada pasangan dan usahakan agar Anda tidak mengumbar janji lagi bila Anda masih saja lupa untuk menepati janji-janji Anda.


pelupa, semua orang juga bisa pelupa..
mungkin kekurangan sama co bukan pelupa, tapi kurang peka dan kurang cermat.......
coba deh jadi lebi sedikit peka, emang susah, tp worth it..
mau kan jadi co yang dipuja2 wanita karena "beda" dari co laen?
sedikit usaha bisa disayang banget sama pacar kan anggep ja sebagai hadiah? heehehe......
gausah umbar janji2 jijik kalau emang ga mampu, jangan cuma buat tunjukin kalau lo itu keren ato gentleman. SALAH BESAR...
kalau ga bisa janji, just say it out loud!
it's not that you are some kind of superman..
superman juga punya kekurangan kok...
gausa mencoba jadi perfect atau senengin ce kalau ujung2nya cuma jadi permasalahan yang lead to fight or argument. HARI GINIIIIIIIIII JANJI2? TENGGELEMIN DIRI SONO KE SEGITIGA BERMUDA AJA MANNN! ☺

well ini ga ada maksud jelek2in artikel dr msn sih..
cuma mau kasih sudut pandang yang berbeda aja (mungkin sedikit subjektif n personal?)
but hey this is my blog ☺
no harm lohhhhh hehehhe....

banyak lagi sih contoh2 konkrit hasil research (CIEEE RESEARCH) gue selama ini...
haha...
tapi mungkin next time aja kalau gue pas inget apa2 aja.. hehehe....

Sunday, October 25, 2009

im a gentlewoman! LOL

so what makes a man(shall i say woman too?) gentleman(gentlewoman?)?

kenapa ya gue ngerasa kok sekarang KEBANYAKAN co itu ga gentleman..
atau emang susah yah nyari gentleman?
faktor umur is not the crucial thing in this case..
i guess its all about mindset..
a man should be aware that he should treat women nicely.

tapi kayaknya sekarang kok co2 pada ga ada manner sama aturan..
masih ada yang suit2in ce kek seakan2 ce tuh burung x disuit2in..
WE ARE NOT BIRDS OR ANYTHING THAT YOU CAN WOLF WHISTLE ON!
its very inappropirate, it shows disrespect, and its very rubbish!
it shows that men are basically like animal, do this kind of thing to women

apa maksudnya juga kalau ada perempuan lewat matanyaa itu loh..
sampe mo keluar...
ada juga yang kalau ada 1 gang (gang is soooo childish and ungentlemanly! gentleman can stand on his own feet, no backing needed) trus liat cewek cakep, langsung liar..
ketawa2 lah, goda2in lah, cengengesan lah, becanda2...
OH PLEASE....
even if you are good looking enough, if you ever do that, well-mannered women would never want to even look at you!
(do that only to other women who know nothing about attitude and manner)

trus gue sering banget alamin di sini ato di indo...
co itu gabisa antri...
dimana2 uda tau sebelah/belakangnya ce..
at least ngalah...
being a gentleman is all about sacrificion and consideration.
yang bener2 gentleman bisa diitung cuma pake jari tangan!
gue sering naek bus, co2 pada sibuk nerobosin masuk duluan...
sedangkan gue yang ngalah..
loh kenapa jadi gue yang gentlewoman?
hmm....

basicnya jadi gentleman tiap co itu harus tau.
its a must thing!
gue sih ngerasa kesian aja sama co2 yang ga ngerti gimana harusnya treat a woman..

basicnya kan simple (gue aja tau, masa co pada gatau sih... cape de):
1. never ever EVER EVER EVER!!!!!!!!!x10000 talk down to women!
2. always open the door for women, hold it
3. pull the chair for women if necessary
4. pay the bill discreetly, dont make fuss to impress your woman. ITS A BIG WRONG THING TO DO!
5. walk beside a woman, at least dont walk faster than her nor walk too slow; if she is your girlfriend then hold her hand or put your hand on her waist, it shows that you dont want to let her go and women love it
6. carry stuffs for women(a good women also must know that a man with lady bag is so gay.. so dont ever ask your man to carry your bag everywhere as long as you can carry by yourself)
7. look her in the eyes, not at her boobs or ass or thigh or any other part of her body(unless you really want to kiss her, then look at her lips while she's talking HAHAHA! women will know it once she realises your gaze)
8. retrieve drop items even if she's not your girlfriend or ur date..
9. dont forget to say THANK YOU and SORRY(ini problem buat semua orang jaman sekarang, gatau aturan!)
10. behave properly, jaga cara ngomong, postur tubuh, hygiene! (men who stink are so not gentleman and not attractive)

basic rulesnya kira2 gitu..
uda lama juga gue coba jadi gentlewoman, secara co2 jaman sekarang gatau aturan dan ga ada yg gentleman
jadi gue pikir klo mereka ga bisa jadi gentleman, setidaknya gue aja yg jadi gentlewoman.
hahaahhaha..
jadi klo ada yg mau nerobos antrean depan gue yawes, kalem aja...
tapi klo gue keki sih gue maki2 juga.
hahahahh!!!!!!!!!! (biasanya ibu2 tuh gatau aturan.. cape de)
trus klo ada co ga tahan pintu pas gue mau masuk/keluar suatu tmpt yaudaa gue yang bukain/tahanin buat org belakang gue...
simple thing can lead to a bigger one...
well moga2 aja dengan gue bersikap gentlewoman, co2 pada malu ati ma tau diri sndiri.
HAHAHAH!
tapi keknya ga akan lah ya..
nampaknya sudah menyebar virus gatau diri dan ga tau aturan..

mungkin karena itu juga, gentlemen are so rare to find...
hmm...